Dark night of the soul

If you are fortunate/unfortunate enough to be experiencing dark night of the soul. Do not despair. It can be over come also you are in the right place to find out how. Whilst these words may sound worthless to the thoughts and feelings you might be having. Remember, I have been there. It is not the end, it is the beginning. For those that are overwhelmingly and negatively affected by darkness, please be open to the idea that this might be the best thing that has ever happened to you. Wow, what a crazy thing to say? But the experience you are having is for a reason. You have made a simple error and have become out of sync with the overall balance of your life. This could have been triggered by the over serving of the outside world whilst neglecting and accepting what has been happening to the core of your being.

When we put so much time energy and effort into propping up old and unsupportive roles and identities, we start to feel tired. This is often the first stage of a dark night experience. For example, becoming overstretched at work, or unduly lent upon by friends and family for support. For many, this first indicator is not enough to send you into the full-blown darkness. A simple life adjustment is required to clear the difficulties you face.

On the other hand, when life presents us with a dead end or an unforgiving burden, we tend to start questioning who we are. A feeling of meaningless may set in, and it is then that we can have a full ego collapse. At this point slipping into the darkness seems inevitable as the reliance on who we were is no longer valid and our ability to navigate life’s twists and turns can appear very daunting. Let me give you an example:-

You have been a teacher for 15 years, but for the past five years you have found yourself having to dig deeper in order to hold up the external image, thoughts and beliefs you may have as to what it takes to be a teacher. You may well find yourself coming into conflict with colleagues and work policies when this starts to happen. The fundamental reason for this is that your soul wants something different for you. However, feeling strong pressure to continue as you are could be driving the challenges within you. You need to pay the bills, support your family and perform to your inherited values. These come from your parents, education and other social pressures. Making fear a fundamental feeling to the dark night experience. Other triggers can include the loss of a loved one or the breakdown of a relationship, all operating in the same way in relation to our thoughts beliefs and values.

“The idea of who you are is just an idea. Crucial to understand when overcoming the dark night”

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1- An overwhelming feeling of fear and dread. At this stage, the darkness has well and truly set in, and you are not able to change this feeling with your thoughts. (I can help you with this, please trust that all will come good in the end)

2- Deep emotional pain that you can feel in the body. Starting in the stomach and raising up to the head. Although it can be experienced anywhere in the body or referred to as deferred pain. The avoidance of this pain might seem to increase its sensation. (again, I understand and there is a way of dealing with this.)

3- A feeling of futility that is beyond just being depressed.

4- Shaking in the hands and legs when you try to carry out physical tasks.

5- Sudden tearful outbursts for no logical reason

6- The feeling/sensation of an opening in your body that moves up and down as you bring your awareness towards it.

7- Disturbed and broken sleep

8- The sense you are dying. If you feel this, the chances are you are not. It is merely the feeling of dying. A useful quote from Eckhart Tolle is that “nobody ever died from a feeling”. Remember this quote and immerse yourself in what it actually means. I understand the feeling of dying, it can seem so real. However, it isn't. Of course, always follow the advice of your doctor too.

9- You may have psychic experiences and regular coincidences that appear to be negative and unsupportive. There are some amazing ways to deal with this, as the healing of the positive ego begins.

10- The feeling of having been energetically split in two. From your root chakra right up to your third eye chakra. All I can say is all that has been broken can be repaired. I will help you.

11- The desire to help others. Yes, it is a common symptom, believe it or not. Remember, as we help others, we can help ourselves too. These are just some (of the many) symptoms you are maybe feeling as part of your dark night journey. Some will be felt more intensely and others less so. We are all different and each person's recovery will reflect this.

You are in your current position because you were not listening to your soul's innermost desires. When your thoughts let you down, it is the consciousness that can resolve your pain. Your new identity and sense of self will come from a place that you have not yet imagined. Meditation can help, and so does the practice of presence. I understand that the present “now” maybe a painful place to be. I will help you to deal with this and give you pinpoint knowledge as to what does and doesn’t work. Please do not give up as when you overcome this nasty affliction you will be happier and more fulfilled than ever before.

I am happy to respond to people on emails, but ultimately to receive the best help possible a face to face meeting is required. This can be at my office or anywhere in the world via video call. I do charge for this, and I will help wherever I can.

Keep going, it gets better, I promise you. At all times, support the things that support you. So if you are able to work, do so. If you have good friends, keep them that way. If you have family support, be supported if necessary. Made mistakes with some within these areas of your life? Do not beat yourself up. Change is definitely on the way!

It is the one promise I can make you, change is on the way.